Traumatic vs. Intentional Transformation

Traumatic vs. Intentional Transformation

Have you ever been through a Traumatic Transformation?  And now you want to choose an Intentional Transformation that is rejuvenating and meaningful with joy, purpose, and hope?  Read  more on www.moorewellness.life

Have you ever been through a Traumatic Transformation? Imagine being able to now choose an Intentional Transformation that is rejuvenating and meaningful. In this article, there’s tips on how to cope & heal after traumatic transformation.

In this article:

Read more about how to heal after Traumatic Transformation through Intentional Transformation.

  1. How to cope & begin to heal after Traumatic Transformation
  2. Different Types of Transformation
  3. How to tell the difference between Traumatic and Intentional Transformation
  4. Options during Intentional Transformation

Disclaimer: This article has educational resources about restoring wellness through trauma recovery, and is based on my research and my experiences.  This information is not meant to take the place of medical treatment, counseling or therapy.  If it would be helpful to talk to someone, wellness resources has information on how to contact a mental health professional in your area.

Types of Transformation

Trauma is sudden, involuntary, no control.  It disconnects people from helpful resources, sense of safety, healthy coping skills, and connections of love.  ~ Tara Brach, 2011

Read about how to cope and heal from Traumatic Transformation on www.moorewellness.life

Whenever someone goes through a sudden, involuntary, and frightening event that they cannot prepare for nor control, it can be a traumatic transformation.  

This traumatic event disconnects the person from their helpful resources, sense of safety, healthy coping skills, and connections of love.
(Tara Brach, 2011)

Traumatic Transformation: 

  1. unexpected, unprepared, unstoppable, and involuntary
  2. frightening experience
  3. disconnects from resources, safety, coping, and love
Trauma is sudden, involuntary, no control.  It disconnects people from helpful resources, sense of safety, healthy coping skills, and connections of love.  ~ Tara Brach, 2011

Read about how to cope and heal from Traumatic Transformation on www.moorewellness.life

Involuntary Transformation

Involuntary transformation means a person has no choice if it happens.  They don’t get to prepare, to be ready, to choose to embrace it.

Frightening Transformation

Traumatic transformation can take awhile to get over; not having a choice to transform from something frightening is a game changer.

A few examples of Traumatic Transformation include bullying, abuse, neglect, accidents, and natural disasters.

During a traumatic transformation, the person:

  • does not have access to their helpful resources
  • do not experience a sense of safety either
  • disconnect from resources, safety, coping, and love

Afterwards, it may be difficult to find the right coping skills and love from those who don’t understand what is happening to you.  

Intentional vs. Unintentional Transformation

There’s a big difference between Intentional Transformation & Unintentional Transformation.

In my research, it is interesting to hear the perspective that transformation is only intentional.  Most people talk about transformation like it’s always positive and always a intentional.

I disagree.  

Intentional Transformation

Intentional Transformation can be helpful & healthy, an opportunity to grow and develop, a chance to live a life that is amazing and meaningful!!

Yeah, this is awesome, right??  

Good news, you get to choose!!

Intentional Transformation 
can be rejuvenating and meaningful.  www.moorewellness.life

Intentional Transformation
can be rejuvenating and meaningful.

Keep reading to learn more about Intentional Transformation and how to Intentionally Transform. 

Before we jump in to understand Intentional Transformation, it’s important to understand that Un-Intentional Transformation happens.

This is where healing begins, by first recognizing the details of Traumatic Transformation.

Un-Intentional Transformation

Traumatic Transformation usually includes the person not getting to choose to transform.

Unintentional Transformation can be harmful, a hurdle of obstacles that are difficult and draining.

What is Unintentional Transformation?

Transformation happens sometimes whether you intend for it to happen or not.  Transformation can be forced, abrupt, random, and involuntary.

Examples: guilt, betrayal, verbal manipulation, bullying, trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional neglect, spiritual trauma, slavery, brainwashing

Not to be all gloomy, but it really matters whether a person gets to choose to transform or not. When a person is forced to transform, it can be very disheartening, terrifying, and traumatic.

How to cope after Traumatic Transformation

If you have been through a Traumatic Transformation, there are coping skills that can help you cope and heal.

During times of transition and transformation, it is necessary to find healthy coping skills. Here’s a few coping skills that may help you heal.

There are more coping skills that may be helpful as well, look at the bottom of the article for more coping skills.

Find support.

There are people who want to support you and who have been through traumatic transformations.  

If you cannot find a friend or family member, talk to a trusted teacher or pastor.

Sometimes, it may be easier to talk to a counselor and mental health professional who is trained to support you and help you with coping skills.  

Join the Wellness Tribe, I’ll send you encouraging notes and blog posts about self-care, helpful coping skills, and ways to improve wellness.

Give yourself compassion.

During difficult times, we can the hardest on ourselves.  We can expect ourselves to be perfect, but we’re not.

Of all the times, this is the time to give yourself compassion.

I share self-compassion practices in this article: 44 Compassion and Spiritual Self-Care Activities

Prioritize Self-Care

When we are struggling and trying to survive, it’s so important to prioritize our own self-care.

Remember, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, so then you can breathe and help others later.

Here’s 28 Self-Care Ideas that can help you survive and thrive.

Choosing Intentional Transformation over Traumatic Transformation

If you have been through a Traumatic Transformation, you still have a choice to Intentionally Transform when you are ready.

Intentional Transformation is Good

When you choose to Intentionally Transform, it is usually for a good reason. You want to have a second chance, be renewed,

I explain why Transformation is good in my first article in this series: Year of Transformation: Hope, Butterflies and Trauma.

There are 4 reasons transformation can be beautiful and meaningful.

  1. You get a new beginning, a new chance to start again fresh.
  2. A opportunity for new development (personal, physical, spiritual)
  3. Clean out the old stuff and shed old ways
  4. Living an Intentional Life full of meaning 

Voluntary vs. Involuntary

There is a huge difference between Intentional Transformation & Traumatic Transformation!! One is voluntary and the other is involuntary. One is intentional and the other is un-intentional.

Intentional: voluntary, done on purpose, deliberate, willful, purposeful, preplanned

Un-Intentional: accidental, abrupt, aimless, forced, purposeless, involuntary, hit-or-miss

Pivotal Moment

This is my pivotal moment in a trauma journey of overcoming health issues.  This time, I have a choice.  I can choose to transform into who I want to be.

I am intentionally choosing to transform versus transformation happening to me unintentionally!!  

You can intentionally choose to transform for the better.  This is your time, your choice, your voice.  Learn more at www.moorewellness.life

This is your time!
This is your choice!  
This is your voice!

You can intentionally choose to transform for the better.

What is Intentional Transformation?

Transformation =transition

First, what is Transformation? Transformation is …

  • a thorough or dramatic change in form or appearance
  • a time for renewing, revision, reshaping
    • metamorphosis
  • a time of transfiguration, conversion, changing.
    • Induced or spontaneous of one element into another by a significant process
  • an adaptation, shifting, adjustment, modification
  • a time of diversity, innovation, reconstruction, revision
  • a transition, development, progress, and regeneration

Intentional =purposeful

Since the word “Intentional” means…

         = done on purpose, deliberate, intended, considered, studied, purposeful, willful

Intentional Transformation

Therefore, Intentional Transformation means…

         = deliberately and willfully renew and reshape a part of your life into a significantly better form

Intentional Transformation means to purposefully, deliberately, willfully renew and reshape a part of your life into a significantly better form.  Read how to intentionally transform on www.moorewellness.life

WOOHOO, this is exciting!! Can you hear the winds of change, this is your chance!!

3 Options during Transformation

What will happen when I don’t choose to transform?  Because we all go through seasons where we really don’t want to transform.

Well, there are many options that could happen.

Option #1: Things could stay the same for awhile. 

That would also mean that without change, things stay the same.  That’s good and bad.  

  • preserve, stillness, pause, perseverance, sustain

Yes, it’s good to pause, to preserve this moment, to persevere.  

There is a season to be still and sustain.  

For how long is the question.  

Things don’t stay the same for very long.

Option #2: Things could change without me being a part of the process.

Life is naturally changing, so if I try to stay the same, then I stay stagnate while the world changes.

Stagnate, dormancy, inactivity, immobility

That means I don’t choose to improve, or get a second chance.

  • lack of progress, delay, lag, setback, regression

Others around me or growing, developing, learning, transforming.

I don’t want to be regressing, stuck in a setback for long, or delayed.

Option #3: Things could change and I get to choose to be part of the process.

There is a season to be still, and a season to change.

I choose option #3, I want to be part of the process of transforming.

  • calm, harmony, peace, order

I choose to transform and strive for peace between people, harmony in my life, calmness in my soul, and order in how I do thing.

What do you choose to do?

Choosing to Transform

This changes everything, because you get to choose how you transform this time!  You get to intentionally choose!

In fact, you get to choose:

  • every belief surrounding transformation
  • each emotion evoked by triggers during transformation
  • your response of how you transform each moment

Real Life Application:

What season of life are you in right now?

Season of life

Do you recognize any of these seasons of transformation?  

  • New beginnings 
  • Development personally, socially, physically, spiritually
  • Uncomfortable shedding old ways
  • Shift in thinking, new perspective
  • Identifying new values
  • Living freely and fully

Live a Meaningful Life with Coping Skills

Coping Skill: Hope

Want to know how ordinary people live transformational lives?  You can overcome significant struggles to make something meaningful with your life, and help so many people! Read the first article in this series: Year of Transformation: Hope, Butterflies and Trauma.

Coping Skill: Mindfulness Self-Care

Self-Care and Mindfulness Ideas for mind-body-spirit to help you lower stress, prevent burnout, and recover from difficulty faster.

Coping Skill: Multisensory Safe Spaces

Life is stressful, so having safe spaces is essential.  Having a back-up plan  of safe spaces is very helpful when you’re in a potentially de-stabilizing situation.   Having safe people and safe spaces can be very helpful, but not always realistic.  So, when external safe spaces are not available, here’s how to create 12 Multisensory Safe Spaces for internal safety & stability.

Join the Wellness Tribe

I’d love to hear about your journey towards wellness!  What helps you gain wellness?

I hope you join us on your journey of improving your wellness.  This tribe is a gathering place to improve wellness & connections, receive life-giving coping skills, and restore health in mind, body, and spirit.

Join the Moore Wellness Tribe

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I’d love to hear from you, please leave me a comment, or join me on FacebookPinterest, or Instagram.

Blessings,
Beth

Need help finding a counselor?

If you need someone to help to talk to, counselors and mental health professionals can help provide support resources on:

  • time management
  • stress management
  • procrastination
  • relaxation skills
  • goal setting
  • personal development

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My Year of Transformation: Hope, Butterflies, and Trauma

My Year of Transformation: Hope, Butterflies, and Trauma

The is my year of Transformation! Recently, I was inspired by a TED Radio Hour podcast: Transformation.  Listening to these ordinary people live transformational lives touched my heart deeply.  They had overcome significant struggles to make something meaningful with their lives, and help so many people!

Disclaimer: This article has educational resources about restoring wellness through trauma recovery, and is based on my research and my experiences.  This information is not meant to take the place of medical treatment, counseling or therapy.  If it would be helpful to talk to someone, wellness resources has information on how to contact a mental health professional in your area.

TED Talks: Transformation

Here’s my summary of the amazing 4 interviews & snippets of these 4 TED Talks.

TED Radio Hour youtube video & podcast: Transformation

  1. Transformation of beliefs
  2. A new integrative life
  3. Transformation of beauty
  4. An un-examined life

Year of Transformation & Meaning 

That’s what I want to do, live a transformational life of deep meaning and help others do the same. So, let’s dive into what Transformation really means and how to do it.

Live a life of transformational deep meaning, and help others do the same.  Butterflies in field of flowers.

Important: This article has resources about restoring wellness, and is based on my research and my experiences.  This information is not meant to take the place of counseling or therapy.  If at any time you feel uncomfortable or need to talk to someone, wellness resources can help you find a counselor and other resources that may be helpful.

My One Word: Transformation

This year is a Transformation Year!

My focus word for this year is Transformation: a new season of my journey in trauma recovery.  

At the beginning of each new year, I like to choose one word that is my focus word, my one word for the whole year.  I set my goals with this focus word, it explains where I am and where I am going, who I want to be, and what is important to me.

One Word 365 – there’s even a blog written about a lawyer grieving after the loss of their grandmother and brother

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4 Ways for Transformation

There are 4 ways transformation can be beautiful and meaningful.

  1. You get a new beginning, a new chance to start again fresh.
  2. A opportunity for new development (personal, physical, spiritual)
  3. Clean out the old stuff and shed old ways
  4. Living an Intentional Life full of meaning 

More details about these 4 Stages of Transformation coming soon in this blog series.

Accept it, Manage it

Name it, Tame it! That’s what Dan Siegel calls being able to name what’s going on & being able to tame it.  The big unknown is not so scary and wild when it’s named. Since now we know what to call it, we can accept it & manage it, woohoo!!

Accept it, Manage it

Transformation includes Hope

When I realized I was going through a Transformation, I felt such hope.  

Hope for the future, hope for my soul, hope for peace within.  colorful butterflies

Hope for the future, 

hope for my soul, 

hope for peace within.

Beth @ Moore Wellness.Life

Is Transformation for you?

There is a time and season to transform and renew, and a time and a season to withdraw and be still.

Time and season to transform and renew, time and season to withdraw and be still. colorful flying butterflies

There is a time and a season

to transform and renew,

and a time and a season 

to withdraw and be still.

Beth @ Moore Wellness.Life

For the 1-2 years, I have been seriously withdrawing, resting, and recovering from serious health issues.  For the majority part of my life, I’ve tried to balance my life with times of rest.  Now, I just have to make sure that my rest is a daily part of my routine.

What season of life are you in?

Are you going through a Transformation?

Year of Transformation & Seasons

Here are common times of Transformation, even though we may call them many names.  

Do you recognize any of these times in your own life?

Positive Times of Transformation

  • New Friendship
  • Different School/College
  • Newly Engaged
  • Newly Married
  • Additional Baby
  • New Job

Difficult Times of Transformation

Times of Transformation can also look different and be difficult times of change.

  • Loss of Friendship 
  • Death of a Baby
  • Loss of Marriage
  • Loss of Job
  • Death of a Loved One

Life Transitions

  • New Job
  • Changing Schools
  • Moving/new home
  • Empty Nest
  • Mid-Life

Embrace or Fight Transformation?

How did I know it was time to embrace Transformation?

So, my soul has been undergoing a Transformation for awhile, I just didn’t know what to call it till now. 

Now that I know it’s a time of Transformation, I have a choice to embrace it or fight it.

Harm in Fighting Negative Forces

Well, I’ve learned the hard way what it feels like to fight against what is already happening in reality. I have fought against being sick, against anxiety, against fears, and against trauma.

Confusing?  Yes, it may seem like those are all good things to fight against.  What could the harm in fighting and rejecting negative forces?  

Ah, well the more I fight against parts of myself and parts of my story, it compromises my health, my mind, and my spirit.  This is such a journey, to constantly learn how to accept reality and not avoid reality. Especially when reality is difficult and uncomfortable and frightening.  

The more I can accept difficult happenings inside me, the more I can accept transforming, shedding, and growing.

Beth @ MooreWellness.Life

Embrace Difficulty = Embrace Transforming = Embrace Growing

Year of Transformation Metaphors: Butterflies, Beauty and the Beast, and Birth

Researching Transformation reveals many similarities across genres: literature, science, spirituality, mental health, and theatre.  Here are a just a few examples of Transformation in my research:

Butterflies

Butterflies are the first thing I think of about Transformation.  They undergo an amazing metamorphosis (transformation) in 4 stages: 

  • egg
  • larva (caterpillar)
  • pupa (chrysalis)
  • adult (butterfly)

Download this Free butterfly life cycle coloring page

To become a butterfly, you have to be willing to let go of being a caterpillar.

To become a butterfly,

you have to be willing to let go

of being a caterpillar.

Beth @ MooreWellness.Life

Beauty and the Beast

Beauty and the Beast is a classic literature story about Transformation.  The Prince undergoes a significant change in his life to finally experience redemption: 

  • boy
  • beast
  • selfless beast
  • man 

Birth

Birth is actually what Transformation feels like at times.  There is a womb-like experience of unknown beginnings, then the development of life-giving resources, next a birthing process, then alive as a breathing human being.

  • egg
  • baby in the womb
  • birthing process
  • infant

During the birthing process, it can seem quite uncomfortable, yet you can see a little light at the end of the tunnel.

Real Life Application:

What season of life are you in right now?  Walking down a path in a field towards the beach and ocean.

Which season of life are you in right now?

Do you recognize any of these seasons of transformation?  

  • New beginnings 
  • Development personally, socially, physically, spiritually
  • Uncomfortable shedding old ways
  • Shift in thinking, new perspective
  • Identifying new values
  • Living freely and fully

Join the Wellness Tribe

I’d love to hear about your Transformation journey and your journey towards wellness!  What helps you during times of Transformation? What helps you gain wellness?

Join the Moore Wellness Tribe

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I hope you join us on your journey of improving your wellness.  This tribe is a gathering place to improve wellness & connections, receive life-giving coping skills, and restore health in mind, body, and spirit.

I’d love to hear from you, please leave me a comment, or join me on FacebookPinterest, or Instagram.

Blessings,
Beth

Need help finding a counselor?

If you need someone to help to talk to, counselors and mental health professionalscan help provide support resources on:

  • time management
  • stress management
  • procrastination
  • relaxation skills
  • goal setting
  • personal development

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